This image calms me down a lot; though it is just a drawing of a warm touch between two persons, it has lots of meaning to me; it reflects how human contact can be so important, and how reassuring it could offer.
In this image, the artist wants to send a powerful and deep message about the importance of " Touches " as a very simple way to bring the assurance to ourselves; even if we don’t see the expression on their faces, and we don't need to see their expressions to know how they feel!
A comforting touch can reach out and make a difference in someone’s life more than uttered words, as sometimes words fail to describe what we are trying to say.
A " Touch " says, ‘I'm here for you. Whatever happens, I will do everything I can to make things right again.’
Without saying many words, the right touch in the right time can provide us with a lot of emotional support. It can mean the world.
But why do we need constant reassurance?
If we feel muddled about a difficult relationship or something, we might use a friend as a sounding board to sort things out. We may get clearer about what we want to say to our partner as we talk it out. We might blow off steam by venting about our situations and find it helpful that others feel similarly.
The questions here, in our interactions with others in our life, what are we really seeking? Advice? Direction? Or something else?
We may not realize it, but often there’s a deeper reason we like to talk things out: we want reassurance.
The reassurance is a sort of a healthy expression of our vulnerability. Our emotional well-being always requires validation and reality checks from others.
Always remember that it’s human to seek reassurance. No one is totally self-sufficient, even the most secure people need reassurance sometimes. It’s part of being human. Even if you need lots of validation, this is nothing to be ashamed of, and wanting reassurance doesn’t mean we’re weak or indicate that we’re experiencing self-pity. It simply means:
- We’re a vulnerable human being
- We need to have our feelings heard
- We need to know we’re not alone
- We need to know we matter and we’re valued
- We want a reality check to see if we’re on track
The most insecure people are those who don’t acknowledge their fears and insecurities. It’s a blessing to find people with whom we can be vulnerable and talk to them when we feel anxious or insecure. A reciprocal sharing of our humanity, including our need for reassurance, builds trust and connection.
Finally, it takes courage to reach out and ask for help or support when needed. So, if you find yourself needing reassurance, it doesn’t mean you’re an insecure person; it simply means you’re human.