To be acceptable , reject your fear : " The fear of rejection very often gets the better of us”.
We seek to be engaged in conversation daily, but sometimes we wonder what holds us back.
It is the fear of rejection. So, reject rejection like anything else that does not work for you.
Remember a person may reject the way you think ; not the person you are. Be yourself and remember that there is always a next idea to strike a conversation.
Develop empathy to start afresh on the social circuit .
Will that person take my words nicely ?
What if that colleague forms a bad impression about me?
These are legitimate questions to ask, so are the answers.
Get into somebody else’s shoes for a while and put on your thinking hat to understand the position that the other person is in. What would you have done in that situation that he is in?
Develop empathy and curate the offer in your pitch. Be realistic and remember that it is as much your right to move on, as is the right of the other to refuse you.
Exude Confidence with Your Body Language All the Time
The one that deems himself eligible to bag the coveted chair, eventually does stake claim to it.
Think positively about yourself and remind the self that you are a king.
Exude confidence in every move. Make eye contact with people while talking, listen to them while interacting, and stay firm on what you think is right for you.
Socializing does not require you to be adamant, but if you feel boundaries of basic principles are being transgressed, say it politely.
Here are three very simple ways to become more acceptable among people:
1. Encourage Others to Talk about Themselves.
People are not interested either in you or in me.They are interested in themselves morning, noon, and after dinner.
Be a good listener and let the other person do a great deal of talking.
2. Call Them by Their Names.
Remember that a person's name to that person is the sweetest and the most important sound in any language. Every person is more interested in his or her own name than in all the other names on earth put together. Remember that name and call it easily, and by that you have paid a subtle and very effective compliment.
3. Talk about Your Achievements Only When Asked TO.
It's human nature to compare our achievements with those of others to see where we stand in the eyes of society. Bragging about your achievements when you're not asked about them would not only make the other person feel uncomfortable, but they also would not want talk to you again, knowing that it's only yourself you talk about. Again, this takes us to point no. 1.
Six Ways to Accept Others as They Are :
1. Watch Your Thoughts.
Consider what you're thinking about. I often think things about other people, judging them, without even realizing it. I'm going to work on paying more attention to my thoughts and do my best to push them in a nonjudgmental, more accepting direction.
2. Look for the Positive.
Not accepting others is a result of seeing the negative in them. Instead of focusing on why someone is different, I'm going to focus on what's good about that person and his/her choices and actions. My way is not always the best one.
3. Avoid Right Wrong Dichotomies.
It's very tempting to see the world in black and white with a right and wrong way to do things, but that's just not how it is. Things don't have to be right or wrong if I choose to accept them as they are. I'm going to stop labeling my way as "right."
4. Stop Judging yourself.
Our judgments of others are often a result of our personal criticisms. If I stop putting pressure on myself to do things the "right" way, I'll also stop putting pressure on others as well. Not judging myself or others is a crucial step to acceptance.
5. Focus on the Now.
A lack of acceptance can generate from comparing things to the past. I'm not going to think about what happened before and try to live accordingly; I'm going to think about now. Comparing things to the past always hinders an acceptance of the present..
6. Reverse the Situation.
I ask myself what if someone was judging me and not accepting me? How would I feel? I'll keep these questions in mind the next time I'm not accepting others. I will imagine someone constantly telling me to slow down (and how annoying that would be!).