Are you going thru difficult times these days? Do you keep asking yourself how things suddenly turned upside down although everything was going just fine? Are you tired from trying to restore a broken relationship with someone you really love? Do you feel lonely
& lost? .
We keep asking : what have I done wrong ? Why he/she has left me after all what I’ve done? Why after getting into so many relationships I’m still not satisfied, only getting lonelier? Why dad has left mom? Why I don’t feel deeply loved & understood? Why … why … why?
Well my friend, let me tell you that pain & grief are part from living in this fallen world, so don’t feel awkward because you’re passing thru these bad or negative feelings. Our life is full of brokenness, broken relationships, broken promises, broken expectations, broken families, all this because we, ourselves, are broken & cracked from inside !!
* We keep putting all our efforts in a relationship, but it ends up with a separation ..
* We keep striving for success, but it ends up with more worries for more & more ..
* We keep traveling & going out with our friends, but it ends up with this feeling of lacking something ,
There’s a deep hole inside each & every one of us … this hole is causing us so much pain that we try to fill it with anything that we encounter … we keep digging many wells searching for water that would quench our thirst .. We keep looking for this type of relationship that would bring back our broken pieces into wholeness back again …
“ When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares? “
~ Quote by: Henri Nouwen ~
We keep searching for such type of friends, but once we think we’ve found them; shortly we get disappointed & injured once again.
It is like a vicious circle, those whom are deeply injured, yet not healed, are those who hurt others & causes them pain. You & I are included in those “others“. As long as we’re still hurt, shattered & deeply absorbed by our wounds; we’ll continue hurting others, & what you shall give is what you shall receive.
Maybe you’re asking now :
– So that’s it? I should give up then & never expect for things to get better?
– I should never expect such cool friend or such warm relationship?
On the contrary , our pain of feeling broken , lost , isolated , hungry for love & understanding are all like symptoms to our real disease, which is the need to be restored from inside. People are tempted to do 2 things with their pain: either getting drowned & stuck to their pain all the days of their lives, or distracting themselves to escape the pain by doing many things: like achievements, relationships, etc., thus escaping from their real & only opportunity to heal the pain, not acknowledging that these symptoms refer to our deepest need for something bigger & broader than all what we’re doing to fill this deep hole within … to restore back the broken pieces … to return back the beauty of the picture that once got stained ….
” Nobody escapes being wounded. We are all wounded people, whether physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually. The main question is not, ‘How can we hide our wounds?’ so we don’t have to be embarrassed, but ‘How can we put our wounds in the service of others?’ When our wounds cease to be a source of shame, and become a source of healing, we have become wounded healers. “
~ The wounded healer / Henri Nouwen ~
** So, the question is: How then to be healed? How to be restored? & who can help me during this process?
You can follow us on: Part (2): Restored